Do you know such people who always want to be right? At the first little word of criticism or well-meant advice, they go to the ceiling. Maybe you even belong to them?
Sometimes we all tend to refuse good pieces of advice.
It’s easier to stay in our well known, comfortable zone of self-protection.
Of course, it also depends on the type of feedback: It’s a difference If someone criticizes us in the best knowledge and conscience, or merely wants to attack us.
All feedback is not equal!
Feedback can be effective when meant constructive and does not just want to hurt someone.
It helps to understand what we do well and what could be better!
Too often we see it as our enemy! It’s important to understand how vital feedback is for our life!
We only develop by feedback.
Bandura and Cervone (1983) showed in their study with cyclists that through concrete targets and constant feedback the performance of a group could be improved by nearly three times as much. That’s impressive – but logical.
When it comes to feedback, it too often depends on the sound. But much more important is the content.
Reasons why Feedback matters
Let’s face the facts: to improve and develop to our fullest potential we have to stop living in a nutshell! The journey begins with our attitude!
We should learn to look at criticism as something positive: it will help us if we let it.
So start to not only by taking given feedback seriously, but also by asking for constructive feedback along the way. That will open up possibilities, of which you had no idea.
1. Feedback boosts our performance!
If not mistaken for criticism, feedback can increase performance – as we clearly saw in Bandura’s study mentioned above.
The performance of the cyclists improved about three times, in contrast to the control group, which had neither goals nor feedback.
If we see it this way: Without feedback, we remain exactly where we are!
Wouldn’t that be horrible? At the same time, we could improve a lot simply by refining our process.
2. Feedback is a tool for continued learning!
If we ask for feedback and continue to learn, we will improve our skills. But if we neglect well-meant tips and keep on doing as before, nothing will change – except maybe more and more people hate to work with us.
How we react to feedback or criticism has a lot to do with our mindset.
Carol Dweck, the author of the book “Mindset,” distinguishes between people with fixed mindset and growth mindset.
A growth mindset is shown by individuals that embrace challenges, persist in the face of setbacks and learn from criticism. As a result, they reach a higher level of achievement.
People with fixed mindset tend to ignore useful feedback and avoid challenges.
3. Feedback motivates and boosts our confidence!
Feedback – whether negative or positive can motivate us to perform better!
In our younger years, we learn through praise, and we receive feedback all the time.
Over the years, we become more sensitive – because we all have to be experts in a way.
Especially positive feedback shows us that we are on the right way. We gain security and can start new projects with more confidence.
4. Feedback shows people that you value them and their input!
There are tons of people that only rely on their own opinion. They never ask others to help them out. Maybe they do good work, but they will have a hard time learning something new.
Asking for feedback shows you value the opinion of other people.
In some ways, it displays your attitude towards mistakes and learning. And it is certainly not a sign of weakness!
5. Feedback promotes an open and honest dialogue!
People like to give feedback! And often it leads to exciting possibilities.
When you receive feedback, you react (hopefully in the right way), and dialogue gets created automatically.
Besides other people recognize that you are a human being (with strengths and weaknesses) and feel more connected.
6. Feedback creates and strengthens relationships
When people feel valued and involved, this also promotes the emergence of new relationships! Of course depending on how you act!
If not at least existing connections are strengthened!
Teams, in which an open dialogue prevails, are often characterized by an atmosphere of support and trust.
7. Feedback promotes productivity and targets the target
A constant feedback loops let you immediately see if you are on the right path.
Often delays and misunderstandings can be prevented or at least detected early enough.
So less time is wasted doing things that may not be that important! Resources – no matter whether time or labor force can be used purposefully
8. Feedback helps you to recognize strengths and weaknesses
Sometimes it’s not that easy for us, to detect what we do well and what could be improved. It’s a natural instinct to protect our dreams.
But no matter how big or small our talents are – all skills can be improved!
Through feedback you can define your skills and master them! Always remember: knowledge is power!
9. Only feedback strengthens your ability to deal with it
A lot of skills are asked if it comes to handling feedback. Sometimes it’s hard to read comments or listen to people. Our first reflex is to wipe the heard on the side
It’s hard work to listen and deal with it.
But if you do, there’s also something happening in yourself. Next time feedback will be a lot easier to handle!
Feedback is always there, and everybody has to cope with it! It’s better to get used to it quickly!
The biggest difference lies in the way how we react to it and what we do afterwards.
Nowadays we simply can not afford to wipe it on the side.
Our ability to deal with it properly and to pull something good out of it is more important than ever before.